Known Donor Registry was started by Beth Gardner in January 2010. Originally named Free Sperm Donor Registry, KDR was a response to her experience as she and her wife began the process of becoming parents with a known donor. KDR strives to meet the social and educational needs of the community of women, families and donors who seek to excercise their freedom of choice in how, and with whom, they decide to create their families.
Who We Are
Our goal is to create an open, active community resource for people who have or want to have children through private sperm, egg and embryo donation and promote healthy and safe practices while doing so.
The Known Donor Registry is open to everyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race or religion.
- Educate donors and recipients on safe and legal procedures
- Encourage Artificial Insemination (AI) over "Natural Insemination" (NI, i.e. sex) *
- Advocate for the rights of donor-conceived children
- Strongly discouraging permanently anonymous donation and parental secrecy **
- Keep it free
*There is no proven medical evidence that sexual intercourse increases the chances of conception over artificial insemination. Sexual intercourse (NI) is often encouraged by donors as "more effective," and there simply isn't any medical evidence to back this up.
**Donor-conceived people have a fundamental right to their genetic origins and are almost universally against donor anonymity or secrecy by their parents.
Private or "directed" sperm, egg, and embryo donation has been around for a long time, and is such an important resource for lesbian couples, single women and families with fertility challenges who want to start a family. Donors want to choose who they donate to and on what terms, whether that means no contact post conception, some involvement, or all the way to co-parenting. Being a donor is a caring and selfless act of generosity that deserves to be treated with deep respect and gratitude. Unfortunately, private donation, especially sperm donation, is often seen as unsafe, ill-advised and unsanitary, and at worst a bunch of men just looking for sex.
Creating a family is a profound and personal experience, not a business.
The fertility and donor conception industry is a largely "for-profit" enterprise, with the donors being the "product," and recipients the "customers." There is a lot of money to be made, and there is almost no discussion or support of private sperm donation by the doctors, clinics, egg donation agencies and cryobanks that dominate the industry.
KDR is making an effort to bring legitimacy to private sperm donation by providing a valuable resource to the community of donors, women and families who seek an alternative to fertility industry sperm donation. By providing a registry and Donor ID system, we can allow donors and recipients to access many of the services previously only open to sperm banks. This includes the ability for donors to provide a thorough and informative profile without compromising their confidentiality. Donor KDR profiles remain online even after the donor is no longer donating, allowing their donor conceived children to access the information many years later.
Do The Research
Using sperm from a sperm bank and conceiving with care of a physician has two primary advantages over private sperm donation: health screening and legal protection. These are not aspects to be taken lightly, and women who are interested in using a private sperm donor need to carefully research the health and legal implications. By not using a sperm bank and a physician, a woman is taking on the duty to carefully screen and verify the donor, as well as protecting her family and her child from future conflict. FSDR strongly encourages both Donors and Recipients to consult with a family law attorney in their state before committing to private sperm donation.
- Research the family law in your country and state
- Consult a family law attorney
- Carefully screen donors/recipients prior to committing to donation